What Do I Do When the Talking Gets Tough? Three Strategies to Try.

Communication--really good communication--strategies that connect us with others and provides us chances to feel really seen and heard--can be so, so hard.

Communication that connects us deeply with others, leaving us each feeling safe and known, seen and heard, takes presence, intention and effort – especially when things go awry.

As you’ll hear in the podcast this week, sometimes we’re unsure why others find it difficult to speak with us, or why they avoid us.

Other times, when people are used to communicating with us in ways that no longer feel good or affirming to us, we can struggle to find a way to shift course together.

Finding the sweet spot between understanding and being understood – between enjoying the presence of others and riding the waves of inevitable misunderstanding and conflict – can be a challenge.

On this week’s podcast, we explore three key ways of bringing more ease when conversations become challenging – here’s a quick preview:

1.  Resource ourselves internally so that we can ask gentle and clear questions.

2.  Set an intention to work with people as they are, and not as we wish they could be.

3.  Drop our attachments to our own agenda or outcome.

Listen to the full podcast here, or jump to any specific section using the following show notes:

Show notes:
(0:50) How do I prep for a mediation when I am in the dark about the nature of the upset?
(11:56) How do I improve the family dynamics and communication with a sister who bosses me around?
(28:38) How can I respond when someone tells me what I “need to” do?
(35:50) What are other options for dealing with my dad, who’s in assisted living?
(53:11) How do I manage my feelings and support a young family member who says we never have enough time together?
(56:02) Outro

Share this post

Dr. Yvette Erasmus is a clinical psychologist, author, and host of the podcast Conversations from the Heart. Through her integrated approach to personal transformation, she has built a global community, teaching people how to live into their values with courage and authenticity.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Related Posts

learning to stay with ourselves
Inner Work & Discernment
#148 From Triggered to Sovereign: Learning to Stay With Ourselves in a Harsh World
A single moment, a tone of voice, a brief interaction, can completely shift our internal state. In this episode, we explore why small moments hit ...
Read more
care without carrying
Boundaries & Power
#147 How to Care Without Carrying: Sympathy, Compassion, and Emotional Boundaries
Understanding the difference between sympathy and compassion can transform our relationships. In this post, we explore how to care deeply without becoming overwhelmed, and how ...
Read more
How to stay kind without draining yourself
Relational Integrity
#146 How to Stay Kind Without Draining Yourself
Many of us have learned to equate kindness with availability, But over time, that equation can leave us feeling drained, resentful, and disconnected. In this ...
Read more
trying to be a better parent but still sounding critical
Parenting & Family Life
#145 Trying to Be a Better Parent, But Still Sounding Critical?
If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, I’m trying so hard to be a better parent… so why do I still sound critical?, you’re not alone. ...
Read more

Unlock Your Free Intro Course with Dr. Yvette

Unlock powerful strategies that help you communicate with clarity, confidence, and genuine connection.

Intro Course Packets
6x