The Protective vs. The Punitive Use of Force and 3 Strategies to Try
I’ve been sitting with competing emotions recently – feeling some peace and joy about the rest ahead for me during our upcoming Thanksgiving long weekend here in US, and at the same time, noticing so much ambient dread and hopelessness in me, connected to...
The 2 Main Differences Between Boundaries and Requests
There are two common misconceptions about boundaries: 1. Confusing a boundary with a punishment. “Now that you’ve gone and done this terrible, awful thing to me, my only option is to punish you for your actions by enforcing a boundary.” 2. Thinking...
Where Did My No Go? A Codependency Question
One of the ways that I stayed safe as a child, was by “flying under the radar,” so to speak. Â I learned not to say everything that I was thinking, not to express everything I was feeling, and to be very careful about how I presented myself to others.When I...
Pendulation: A Tool for Healing
On this week’s podcast, someone asked about how we heal and what makes it so difficult and challenging.One helpful practice that I referred to, was that of pendulation – a technique I learned during my training in Peter Levine’s Somatic Experiencing...
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