How To Increase Your Self-Love: 7 Ways to Get Grounded in Your Goodness
Self-love is such a fundamental aspect of our well-being, but what does it actually entail? If you’re anything like me, you might find yourself prioritizing others’ needs, juggling multiple responsibilities, and tuning into everyone else’s feelings and preferences. It can be easily to fall into old patterns and inadvertently neglect the most important relationship of all – the one we have with ourselves.
How Can I Get My Partner Into Therapy?
In this week’s podcast, a spouse is wondering how to recruit her partner into therapy. It’s a common question. In couples therapy, I’ve often been met by one spouse who is eager to do the hard work of healing and expanding the relationship, and another who is only there to make their spouse happy.
When Does Fear Help, or Harm?
Sometimes our fears are a form of wisdom, directing our attention to our safety and well-being. Other times, our fears are an invitation into courageous action and risk-taking.
The Difference Between Wanting Validation and Needing It
There’s a difference between hoping that my offering brings benefit to others, and feeling a deep need for approval and validation from others. This desire can burn us out, make us feel like nothing we do matters, and can stop us from creating altogether.
The Essential Role of Self-Connection in Successful Relationships With Others
It’s often said that we can only connect with others to the extent that we’ve connected with ourselves, first. This self-connection plays a primary role in the success of our relationships.
Empathy vs Advice: How to Navigate Human Distress
The vast majority of the time, people know what to do. What they’re not getting enough of is empathy. Delve into the importance of empathy, effective communication and self-soothing techniques over advice-giving in times of distress.
Self-Trust: Our Ability to Respond
One of the things I love about the relational practice of nonviolence is how it frees me up to field a much wider range of responses from other people, without losing access to my compassion, courage or grounded clarity.
Self-Connection Builds Self-Trust
Our degree of self-trust is directly related to our self-connection and self-esteem. When we like ourselves, we hold our imperfect, messy and awkward selves in high regard no matter how we perform, show up, or miss the mark sometimes. We know that we are all just learning, growing and doing the best that we can. We […]
Self-Trust: Grounded in Goodness
Whenever we feel insecure, hesitant, or afraid, one of the first places our minds go is to questions like: What really happened? What am I missing? Is this crazy? Or real? We start trying to figure out, “What’s true?” Last week, I wrote about three kinds of self-trust fundamental to our sense of safety and […]
Do You Trust Yourself?
Three types of self-trust that lead to relational safety.