by Yvette Erasmus | Mar 28, 2023 | Feelings, Personal Growth
Even though anger is not the same thing as aggression, I often find myself tensing up around anger as if it is synonymous with aggression. I still consciously remind myself that it, in fact, is not. Anger, is the 30 second to 2 minute “whoooooosh” of activation...
by Yvette Erasmus | Feb 28, 2023 | Healthy Relationships, Personal Growth
When we surrender to something, we let go of trying to control the uncontrollable. We stop trying to force and coerce other people, ourselves or life itself to show up according to our preferences and projections. We make an inward turn, towards “working-with,”...
by Yvette Erasmus | Jan 23, 2023 | Boundaries, Feelings, Healing Trauma, Healthy Relationships, Personal Growth
Healthy relationships are all about finding ways to be both empathic and boundaried, connected to ourselves and connected to others. It’s a fine balance. I don’t abandon myself by putting others on pedestals, nor do I abandon others by putting myself above...
by Yvette Erasmus | Jan 16, 2023 | Feelings, Personal Growth
Our personal growth doesn’t progress in a linear, predictable upwards fashion. It ebbs and flows. It meanders around corners and down alleyways. Some days it’s supercharged and we feel like we are on top of the world. Other days, we can’t seem to find the...
by Yvette Erasmus | Jan 10, 2023 | Healthy Relationships, Nonviolent Communication
Have you ever held yourself back from asking for what you actually want and long for? I notice this in myself sometimes, a reluctance to ask for something – especially if I really want it. Sometimes it’s because I am afraid of how I will feel if someone says...