On the latest episode of my podcast, a theme wove itself through the various situations that people wanted to talk about: How to work with judgments that arise in our relational spaces.
One person explored how to be gentler with herself, while another person dove into the nuanced differences between curiosities, discernments and judgments.
These are the kinds of life-enriching conversations that happen so often during many of my calls.
When you listen to the conversations on this week’s episode, you’ll hear us explore answers to these questions:
One person explored how to be gentler with herself, while another person dove into the nuanced differences between curiosities, discernments and judgments.
These are the kinds of life-enriching conversations that happen so often during many of my calls.
When you listen to the conversations on this week’s episode, you’ll hear us explore answers to these questions:
(3:17) How do I deal with freezing when I want to stand up for someone or myself?
(14:38) How do I increase my self-compassion and decrease self-judgment?
(22:34) What questions could I ask to avoid intellectualizing and instead get in touch with my emotions?
(30:37) How do I find an empathy partner?
(37:55) How could we respond when our child shares a life change but only wants our agreement or positive reaction?
And if you’re interested in some strategies to increase your own self-compassion and reduce your self-judgments, here are some steps you can try.
4 Practical Steps for Dissolving Self-Judgment into Self-Compassion.
- Make a list of all the judgmental thoughts you have about yourself. This will help to separate you from them and help you dis-identify from the judgments.
- Distinguish whose voice is behind these judgmental thoughts. Is it a parent? A sibling? A teacher?
- Investigate the feelings and needs that lie underneath the judgments. By discovering what lies underneath the judgmental thoughts, you can create some self-compassion.
- Outsource the job of empathy to someone you trust, and share with them your process.
Turning self-judgment into self-compassion offers a transformative pathway towards greater self-acceptance, resilience, and overall well-being.
And now it’s your turn … what helps you to dissolve self-judgments and to increase self-compassion and acceptance in your life?
I’d love to know. Leave a comment below.
