#97 Disrupting the Old Rules: How to Stop Performing and Start Communicating
Old rules can be dismantled and replaced with new moves.
#75 – The Problem with “Normal”
Have you ever found yourself wondering if you’re “normal”? It might happen at the moment when you’re feeling out of step with others, or maybe it shows up as a loud, persistent worry that you’re not measuring up.
What would your life look like if you let go of the idea that you need to be “normal” and, instead, embraced what is healthy, true, and nourishing for you?
Stop Being Polite: How To Speak Up With Empathy
We’ve all been there: that moment when we hear something that makes our hearts race, our stomachs churn, and our minds spin. It could be a comment, an assumption, or a dismissive remark that doesn’t sit well. Something that perpetuates old patterns of harm and injustice. And yet, many of us find ourselves holding back, […]
How Nonviolence Transforms Social Change
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Siding With Humanity
Are you looking for ways to be on the side of humanity, and to resist the forces of fragmentation, division and separation that drive wars on this planet?
The Protective vs. The Punitive Use of Force and 3 Strategies to Try
I was sitting with competing emotions recently–feeling peace and joy regarding the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday for those of us in the US, and conversely, feeling a lot of dread and hopelessness surrounding the increasing violence not only in the Middle East but in regions all across the globe. I found myself wondering “Is violence ever justified?” You may be surprised to find out that indeed, sometimes force is exactly what is needed.
Coercion never works. So what does?
Coerced giving is too expensive a substitute for the real thing.
When people give or change from a place of natural authenticity, it’s real, it’s lasting, and most importantly–no one pays the heavy price that comes with coercion.
The Curb Cut Effect
The beauty of the curb cut effect lies in its recognition of the power of inclusive design.
Resources to Transform Oppression
Systemic domination culture is insidious, and transforming its impact and legacy takes careful examination, and meticulous care.
How Do Systems Change?
For many years, I’ve been doing human relationship work in a wide variety of organizations and systems, and no matter where I go, everyone wants to know: What does it actually take to make deep, systemic and cultural changes in the way we do things? Although the answer is complex and multifaceted, I want to highlight […]