Peers, Partners, and Projects, OH MY: Assessing our Relationships

by | Sep 26, 2023 | Boundaries, Healthy Relationships

While this hasn’t been the case historically, I know that I have become very selective about the people in my life who are closest to me; those who get access to the most vulnerable and tender parts of me.

Sometimes, I think of these more intimate relationships in my life as jobs that people might apply for, and what I might include in my job description if I wanted to fill a vacancy.

For example, the position of “Best Friend” would include skills like “great listener,” “wicked sense of humor,” “playfully empathic,” and “owns a second home on Fiji.”  

(Just kidding about that second home.)

The position of “Life Partner” would include “attuned and responsive,” loves travel and nature adventures,” and – to be honest – “organized, neat and tidy.”  

Yes, one of my central commitments in life involves loving all humans as they are. 

That doesn’t mean, however, that just anyone gets invited into the closer corners of my life – especially into those relationships that I want to have fueled by reciprocity, playfulness and vulnerability.  In those, I am very, very choosy.  

On the podcast this week we talk about the internal and external skills necessary for discerning who shares which parts of our lives, and how to navigate situations where others might want more, or less, than we do.  

Sometimes people are in our lives as peers. 
Sometimes partners.
And some are even projects.

Interested in diving into the situation and question that led to this discussion?  Check it out!

Don’t have time for the whole episode?  Here are the show notes so that you can find any part that you’re most interested in!
[1:10] How do you navigate through a rekindled, yet somehow very different, relationship?
[19:32] How to deal with the conflict of finding out the level of relationship you want to commit to?
[24:39] How do you find balance in relationship dynamics while also putting focus on self-mattering and self-advocacy?
[32:30] Are you allowed to say no to people?
[33:33] Is it time to quit a job? And do you have authority issues?
[42:38] How to communicate boundaries gently and respectfully?
[47:57] What is the difference between setting healthy boundaries and having a controlling behavior?
[55:18] Outro

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How do you deal with assessing your relationships?  I’d love to know. Leave a comment below!


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