#81 Unlearning What No Longer Serves Us: Reclaiming a Healthier Way of Being
This week on Episode 81 of the podcast, I had deeply meaningful conversations with Carol and Jen that reminded me how powerful and necessary it is to unlearn the beliefs and habits that no longer serve us. For me, their stories highlighted how many of our daily struggles, from setting boundaries to overcoming self-doubt, have been shaped by the systems we’ve internalized. Together, we explored how noticing our moments of unlearning work not only transforms our own lives but also ripples outward, creating a more compassionate and just world. Here, I’ll share a few additional reflections on “unlearning,” but for an even richer understanding, listen to the podcast to hear how these principles play out in the micro-moments of our daily lives.
#74 Protecting Kids from Bullying: Tools for Immediate Safety and Lasting Change
When it comes to protecting kids from bullying and fostering inclusive environments, we often encounter objections that dismiss or minimize the urgency of these issues. Phrases like “Kids will be kids” or “You’re being too sensitive” can shut down conversations and prevent meaningful change. These objections aren’t just casual remarks—they reflect deeper societal patterns, discomfort, and sometimes, a lack of awareness. This week’s podcast episode, Episode 74: Protecting Kids from Bullying, dives into the complexities of ensuring immediate safety while addressing the root causes of harm.
Balancing Rules and Freedom
In our complex world, balancing rules and freedom can be a struggle: we can find ourselves caught between the need for structure and the desire for autonomy. When it comes to the paradox of rules versus freedom, NVC offers a unique perspective. It suggests that both rules and freedom are expressions of fundamental human needs, such as safety, autonomy, respect, and connection.
How to Handle Criticism From A Supervisor
Listening to the criticism from a supervisor can be one of the most painful things we experience at work. In our deep desire to escape that discomfort, we might rush to judgment or hurry to defend ourselves. What we’re usually longing for is a resolution, and in our rush to resolve things, we can miss the power that comes from sitting in the tension of multiple perspectives.
Siding With Humanity
Are you looking for ways to be on the side of humanity, and to resist the forces of fragmentation, division and separation that drive wars on this planet?
How to Step Out of a Power Struggle
Have you ever found yourself caught up in the tangled nets of a power struggle and wanting to find a way to more ease and collaboration?
The Protective vs. The Punitive Use of Force and 3 Strategies to Try
I was sitting with competing emotions recently–feeling peace and joy regarding the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday for those of us in the US, and conversely, feeling a lot of dread and hopelessness surrounding the increasing violence not only in the Middle East but in regions all across the globe. I found myself wondering “Is violence ever justified?” You may be surprised to find out that indeed, sometimes force is exactly what is needed.
Coercion never works. So what does?
Coerced giving is too expensive a substitute for the real thing.
When people give or change from a place of natural authenticity, it’s real, it’s lasting, and most importantly–no one pays the heavy price that comes with coercion.
The Curb Cut Effect
The beauty of the curb cut effect lies in its recognition of the power of inclusive design.
Reclaiming Choice
Our world would be radically transformed if all humans made one simple, profound shift in how they approached any situation. What one shift? A commitment to meeting collective human needs to whatever degree is possible. That’s it. I truly believe it would change everything. What if the “prime objective” of any given conversation, relationship or […]