The Crucial First Step before Dialogue: NVC for Self-Connection
Although we’re often tempted to use Nonviolent Communication as a tool for connecting with others, using NVC as a tool for self-connection, first, actually increases its power.
Siding With Humanity
Are you looking for ways to be on the side of humanity, and to resist the forces of fragmentation, division and separation that drive wars on this planet?
How to Vent Effectively: 3 Strategies
Many people underestimate the power of learning how to vent effectively. However, when used effectively, it can actually be a way of reclaiming and reconnecting with ourselves.
When Does Fear Help, or Harm?
Sometimes our fears are a form of wisdom, directing our attention to our safety and well-being. Other times, our fears are an invitation into courageous action and risk-taking.
Pendulation: A Tool for Healing
Like a swinging pendulum, we can dip into trauma with the resources we need to transform the pain, and dip out of the hurt into a place where we’re resourced and regulated.
Healing vs. Learning
Although the healing and learning process overlap with one another, understanding some foundational differences between them will help you make informed decisions about the kinds of programs and services you seek out on your growth journey. Essentially, healing focuses on tending to our past wounds so that we can find inner peace, while learning focuses on providing new information, knowledge and skills for personal growth.
Love Up Your Inner Critic
If you struggle with any kind of self-criticism, today’s blog is for you. I used to struggle with my own harsh inner voice. I was a perfectionist with impossibly high standards for myself, and would drive myself to exhaustion to get things “right.” I avoided making mistakes because I dreaded the shame I might feel […]
How to Stand Up for Yourself with Love
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.16″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”]Healthy relationships are all about finding ways to be both empathic and boundaried, connected to ourselves and connected to others. It’s a fine balance. I don’t abandon myself by putting others on pedestals, nor do […]
What Is Healing?
For the month of August, we’re delving into the process of change and growth that humans undergo as we embark on our inner work journey. My model of change, The Change Spiral, emerged as one of the frameworks that now underlies much of my work. The quality of spiraling can feel like a revisiting of old […]
Is It Self-Care or Internalized Oppression?
True self-care is not about “fixing” ourselves to meet culturally defined standards of normalcy and productivity. Nor is it about numbing ourselves out with Netflix and Negronis, so that we can reluctantly pull ourselves begrudgingly through another week of work.