#95 Stay in Your Lane: What’s Yours to Carry—And What Isn’t? All About Boundaries
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling strangely heavy, like you just picked up someone else’s emotional baggage without even realizing it? You were just trying to help, to be supportive, to be the good one. But somewhere along the way, you stopped being with the other person and started doing their emotional labor for them. If you’re someone who feels deeply, listens well, and wants people to feel safe around you, this message today is for you.
#78 Boundaries vs. Abandonment: How to Prioritize Yourself Without Guilt
If you ever feel guilty for saying “no” or setting boundaries with others, then let’s get clear on the difference between boundaries vs. abandonment.
Navigating Post-Election Challenging Conversations: A Self-Care Guide
In a time when so many of us feel polarized, navigating challenging conversations with loved ones has become more important—and more difficult—than ever. In the wake of the recent elections in the United States, I’ve been hearing more than ever about how hard it is for some people to continue to extend compassion, patience or generosity to people in their lives who voted for “the other side.”
How to Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-Care
Learning how to set boundaries in relationships where your needs aren’t acknowledged can be challenging. Whether it’s with friends, family, or colleagues, many of us find ourselves giving more than we receive, and feeling guilty when we try to take care of ourselves. In this post, I’ll walk through eight practical insights from a recent […]
When to Stay, When to Let Go: Finding Clarity In Relationships
Deciding when to stay in a relationship and when to let go is never easy. Whether we’re dealing with a marriage, a friendship, or a past romantic connection, these decisions can feel overwhelming and fraught with uncertainty. How do we know when it’s time to work through the challenges and when it’s better to walk away?
Boundaries in Relationships: How to Set Terms of Engagement
Relationships thrive when there are clear terms of engagement, but what does this really mean? Imagine what it would be like if you knew exactly how you wanted to be treated, respected, and valued in every interaction. This kind of clarity has the power to transform your relationships from confusing to deeply connected. What are […]
How to Apologize: Two Examples
One of the best things we can do for our relationships is connect deeply with the effect our actions have on others, and learn how to apologize in a way that feels good for both parties.
The 2 Main Differences Between Boundaries and Requests
There are two main misconceptions about boundaries. The first is that a boundary is a punishment. Now that you’ve gone and done this terrible, awful thing to me, my only option is to punish you for your actions by enforcing a boundary. The second is that a boundary is something I force you to do. “You will not speak to me in that tone of voice”, or “You will not continue to disrespect the family in this way.”
Peers, Partners, and Projects, OH MY: Assessing our Relationships
Of course we work hard to love all humans as they are. However, that doesn’t mean I invite all humans into the closest corners of my life.
The Dance Between Empathy, Self-Protection, and Boundary Setting
Have you ever struggled with the fine line between practicing empathy and not wanting to enable abuse?