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Stories and learnings from my own personal journey into deeper compassion, healthier relationships and nonviolent living. Please feel free to leave comments and questions on any posts; I love being in conversation with you.

Dismantling Domination Systems

#97 Disrupting the Old Rules: How to Stop Performing and Start Communicating

Old rules can be dismantled and replaced with new moves.

Healthy Relationships

#96 How to Reconnect After Distance Without Losing Yourself: Scripts + Skills for Repairing a Friendship After Silence

Have you ever pulled away from someone, but then found yourself unsure how to reconnect when things changed for you? These scripts can help you ...

Boundaries

#95 Stay in Your Lane: What’s Yours to Carry—And What Isn’t? All About Boundaries

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling strangely heavy, like you just picked up someone else’s emotional baggage without even realizing it? You ...

Healthy Relationships

#94 How to Love Someone Without Letting Them Off the Hook

On the podcast recently, caller Cathy grappled with the question of how to stay in connection with her brother, after he had done so much ...

Healthy Relationships

#93 Too Much, Too Loud, Too Honest? Try Soft Power.

I’ve lost track of how many times someone has said it, either directly or indirectly. You’re too much. You’re a lot. You could be a ...

Healthy Relationships

#92 What to Do When Everyone Wants Something Different – and You Don’t Want to Disappear

What can I do when I know what I want, but everyone wants something different?

Personal Growth

#91 How to Talk to Yourself After a Mistake (Without Spiraling)

What you say to yourself after a mistake matters more than the mistake itself.

Feelings

#90 Navigating Overwhelm in Challenging Times

Overwhelm eases when we recognize we don't have to play every role. You don’t have to be everything or fix everything. Your power lies in ...

Emotional Connection

#89 When You Want Connection – But Don’t Want to Betray Yourself

We all have that one relationship where connection really matters. The one that holds history, love, and landmines. The one that used to mean everything ...

Healthy Relationships

#88 10 Phrases to Help You Reconnect When Conversations Go Sideways

What if every awkward silence, every emotional hijack, every misstep, is simply a chance to circle back? To help you reconnect? To build trust, not ...

Healthy Relationships

#87 Feeling Undermined? How to Reclaim Your Power

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling undermined, small, dismissed, or questioning yourself? Maybe you shared something personal, only to have the other ...

Needs

#86 Have Unmet Needs in a Relationship? How to Tell and What to Do

Have you ever felt frustrated, disconnected, or emotionally drained in a relationship, but couldn’t quite put your finger on why? Maybe you’ve found yourself thinking: ...

Inner Work

#85 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD): How to Self-Soothe and Break Free from Emotional Distress

Have you ever felt completely crushed by even the smallest hint of rejection? Maybe a friend doesn’t text back, a coworker gives neutral feedback, or ...

Emotional Connection

#84 Responding with Love When Kids Act Up

Responding with Love When Kids Act Up means no fixing, rescuing, or minimizing their feelings. Discover practical strategies to help kids process frustration, sadness, and ...

Emotional Connection

#83 Making Peace With Being Misunderstood: When You’re the “Villain” in Their Story

Struggling with being misunderstood? Sometimes, no matter how much we explain, others see us as the "villain" in their story. In this blog post, we ...

Healthy Relationships

#82 What to Do When Relationships Disappoint You

Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, our relationships with other people fall short of what we long for. When this happens, it’s natural to ...

Personal Growth

#81 Unlearning What No Longer Serves Us: Reclaiming a Healthier Way of Being

This week on Episode 81 of the podcast, I had deeply meaningful conversations with Carol and Jen that reminded me how powerful and necessary it ...

Healthy Relationships

#80 Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating One-Sided Conversations

If you've ever been in a conversation where you shared something meaningful, only for the other person to quickly turn the focus back to themselves, ...

Healthy Relationships

#79 Messy Moments, Meaningful Growth: Embracing Imperfection in Relationships

I often think about how much we’re taught to strive for perfection - to say the right thing, feel the right way, and always maintain ...

Boundaries

#78 Boundaries vs. Abandonment: How to Prioritize Yourself Without Guilt

If you ever feel guilty for saying "no" or setting boundaries with others, then let's get clear on the difference between boundaries vs. abandonment.

Emotional Connection

#77 The Hidden Power of Small Moments of Care

Sometimes, it’s the small moments of care that have the biggest impact. I was reminded of this during a recent episode of Conversations from the ...

Healthy Relationships

#76 How to Work with Defensive People: Turning Resistance into Connection

After our heartfelt conversations on our recent Conversations from the Heart episode, I found myself reflecting more deeply on the topic of defensiveness. It’s such ...

Dismantling Domination Systems

#75 – The Problem with “Normal”

Have you ever found yourself wondering if you’re "normal"? It might happen at the moment when you’re feeling out of step with others, or maybe ...

Healthy Relationships

#74 Protecting Kids from Bullying: Tools for Immediate Safety and Lasting Change

When it comes to protecting kids from bullying and fostering inclusive environments, we often encounter objections that dismiss or minimize the urgency of these issues. ...

Dismantling Domination Systems

#97 Disrupting the Old Rules: How to Stop Performing and Start Communicating

Old rules can be dismantled and replaced with new moves.

Healthy Relationships

#96 How to Reconnect After Distance Without Losing Yourself: Scripts + Skills for Repairing a Friendship After Silence

Have you ever pulled away from someone, but then found yourself unsure how to reconnect when things changed for you? These scripts can help you ...

Boundaries

#95 Stay in Your Lane: What’s Yours to Carry—And What Isn’t? All About Boundaries

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling strangely heavy, like you just picked up someone else’s emotional baggage without even realizing it? You ...

Healthy Relationships

#94 How to Love Someone Without Letting Them Off the Hook

On the podcast recently, caller Cathy grappled with the question of how to stay in connection with her brother, after he had done so much ...

Healthy Relationships

#93 Too Much, Too Loud, Too Honest? Try Soft Power.

I’ve lost track of how many times someone has said it, either directly or indirectly. You’re too much. You’re a lot. You could be a ...

Healthy Relationships

#92 What to Do When Everyone Wants Something Different – and You Don’t Want to Disappear

What can I do when I know what I want, but everyone wants something different?

Personal Growth

#91 How to Talk to Yourself After a Mistake (Without Spiraling)

What you say to yourself after a mistake matters more than the mistake itself.

Feelings

#90 Navigating Overwhelm in Challenging Times

Overwhelm eases when we recognize we don't have to play every role. You don’t have to be everything or fix everything. Your power lies in ...

Emotional Connection

#89 When You Want Connection – But Don’t Want to Betray Yourself

We all have that one relationship where connection really matters. The one that holds history, love, and landmines. The one that used to mean everything ...

Healthy Relationships

#88 10 Phrases to Help You Reconnect When Conversations Go Sideways

What if every awkward silence, every emotional hijack, every misstep, is simply a chance to circle back? To help you reconnect? To build trust, not ...

Healthy Relationships

#87 Feeling Undermined? How to Reclaim Your Power

Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling undermined, small, dismissed, or questioning yourself? Maybe you shared something personal, only to have the other ...

Needs

#86 Have Unmet Needs in a Relationship? How to Tell and What to Do

Have you ever felt frustrated, disconnected, or emotionally drained in a relationship, but couldn’t quite put your finger on why? Maybe you’ve found yourself thinking: ...

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#97 Disrupting the Old Rules: How to Stop Performing and Start Communicating

#96 How to Reconnect After Distance Without Losing Yourself: Scripts + Skills for Repairing a Friendship After Silence

#95 Stay in Your Lane: What’s Yours to Carry—And What Isn’t? All About Boundaries

#94 How to Love Someone Without Letting Them Off the Hook

#93 Too Much, Too Loud, Too Honest? Try Soft Power.

#92 What to Do When Everyone Wants Something Different – and You Don’t Want to Disappear

#91 How to Talk to Yourself After a Mistake (Without Spiraling)

#90 Navigating Overwhelm in Challenging Times

#89 When You Want Connection – But Don’t Want to Betray Yourself

#88 10 Phrases to Help You Reconnect When Conversations Go Sideways

#87 Feeling Undermined? How to Reclaim Your Power

#86 Have Unmet Needs in a Relationship? How to Tell and What to Do

#85 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD): How to Self-Soothe and Break Free from Emotional Distress

#84 Responding with Love When Kids Act Up

#83 Making Peace With Being Misunderstood: When You’re the “Villain” in Their Story

#82 What to Do When Relationships Disappoint You

#81 Unlearning What No Longer Serves Us: Reclaiming a Healthier Way of Being

#80 Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating One-Sided Conversations

#79 Messy Moments, Meaningful Growth: Embracing Imperfection in Relationships

#78 Boundaries vs. Abandonment: How to Prioritize Yourself Without Guilt

#77 The Hidden Power of Small Moments of Care

#76 How to Work with Defensive People: Turning Resistance into Connection

#75 – The Problem with “Normal”

#74 Protecting Kids from Bullying: Tools for Immediate Safety and Lasting Change

#97 Disrupting the Old Rules: How to Stop Performing and Start Communicating

#96 How to Reconnect After Distance Without Losing Yourself: Scripts + Skills for Repairing a Friendship After Silence

#95 Stay in Your Lane: What’s Yours to Carry—And What Isn’t? All About Boundaries

#94 How to Love Someone Without Letting Them Off the Hook

#93 Too Much, Too Loud, Too Honest? Try Soft Power.

#92 What to Do When Everyone Wants Something Different – and You Don’t Want to Disappear

#91 How to Talk to Yourself After a Mistake (Without Spiraling)

#90 Navigating Overwhelm in Challenging Times

#89 When You Want Connection – But Don’t Want to Betray Yourself

#88 10 Phrases to Help You Reconnect When Conversations Go Sideways

#87 Feeling Undermined? How to Reclaim Your Power

#86 Have Unmet Needs in a Relationship? How to Tell and What to Do

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