#97 Disrupting the Old Rules: How to Stop Performing and Start Communicating
Old rules can be dismantled and replaced with new moves.
#96 How to Reconnect After Distance Without Losing Yourself: Scripts + Skills for Repairing a Friendship After Silence
Have you ever pulled away from someone, but then found yourself unsure how to reconnect when things changed for you? These scripts can help you reconnect.
#95 Stay in Your Lane: What’s Yours to Carry—And What Isn’t? All About Boundaries
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling strangely heavy, like you just picked up someone else’s emotional baggage without even realizing it? You were just trying to help, to be supportive, to be the good one. But somewhere along the way, you stopped being with the other person and started doing their emotional labor for them. If you’re someone who feels deeply, listens well, and wants people to feel safe around you, this message today is for you.
#94 How to Love Someone Without Letting Them Off the Hook
On the podcast recently, caller Cathy grappled with the question of how to stay in connection with her brother, after he had done so much harm in her family.
This wasn’t a simple disagreement. This was a relationship thick with complexity – love, grief, betrayal, outrage. Her brother had caused real damage, some of it permanent. And now, as he reaches out in his final years, she finds herself stuck between two truths:
I love him. And I don’t condone what he’s done.
How do we love someone without letting them off the hook?
#93 Too Much, Too Loud, Too Honest? Try Soft Power.
I’ve lost track of how many times someone has said it, either directly or indirectly. You’re too much. You’re a lot. You could be a little more tactful. Maybe just… tone it down?
And I’ve also lost track of how many times I’ve tried. Tried to keep my tone neutral. Tried to swallow my opinions. Tried to “pick my battles.” Tried to show up “less.”
But here’s what I’ve learned: most of us who’ve been labeled “too much” are not the problem. What we are is passionate. Clear. Fierce. Often protective. And deeply committed to something we believe matters.
The problem isn’t our intensity.
The problem is when that intensity leaks out in ways that others experience as controlling, shaming, or overwhelming, especially when we’re dysregulated or feeling unseen.
#92 What to Do When Everyone Wants Something Different – and You Don’t Want to Disappear
What can I do when I know what I want, but everyone wants something different?
#91 How to Talk to Yourself After a Mistake (Without Spiraling)
What you say to yourself after a mistake matters more than the mistake itself.
#90 Navigating Overwhelm in Challenging Times
Overwhelm eases when we recognize we don’t have to play every role. You don’t have to be everything or fix everything. Your power lies in discovering and nurturing your unique contribution.
#89 When You Want Connection – But Don’t Want to Betray Yourself
We all have that one relationship where connection really matters. The one that holds history, love, and landmines. The one that used to mean everything – but now feels like walking a tightrope in a windstorm. You want to stay in connection. You don’t want to keep playing the same painful roles. But even when […]
#88 10 Phrases to Help You Reconnect When Conversations Go Sideways
What if every awkward silence, every emotional hijack, every misstep, is simply a chance to circle back? To help you reconnect? To build trust, not erode it?