Feeling Our Feelings
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”section” _builder_version=”4.16″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row admin_label=”row” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text” _builder_version=”4.18.0″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” hover_enabled=”0″ global_colors_info=”{}” sticky_enabled=”0″] I’ve been feeling the heaviness of world events these days – perhaps you have too? In times like these, – when life feels heavy, tight, or chaotic, it helps me to […]
4 New Moves for Dropping Judgments
If you’ve been feeling weary or disheartened and stuck in sticky emotional dynamics, I have a story for you this week. Last weekend, I found myself growing increasingly judgmental toward a particular family member, who I happen to love very much. She was irritating the bejeezus out of me. I was annoyed with her “moodiness,” […]
What to do When You’re Feeling Used
Three things you can do to claim your power back and stop being “used” by others …
The Problem with Diagnoses
Last week, a leader called me to discuss a conflict that had arisen on her team. One of her team members had challenged a decision made by a colleague, who in turn responded with indignation and intensity. Sparks flew, tears flowed and everyone else at the meeting watched in awkward silence. Help. She then gave […]
Useful Scripts for a Thriving Thanksgiving
I dread family gatherings. Especially this year. In a few days, many of us will be spending time with families, and many of our families are politically divided. If you are anything like me, you may be wishing you had more choices than the disconnecting fight, flee & freeze scripts you’ve likely been using all […]
Safe vs. Brave
Last weekend, I went to see Miss Peregrine’s School for Peculiar Children. At the end of the movie, Jacob laments that he will not be able to keep the children safe anymore. Emma replies, “You don’t have to make us feel safe, because you’ve made us feel brave.” I love that. The shift from clinging to safety, […]
Will Revenge Make Me Feel Better?
Walking the dog this morning, I noticed my mind playing out a revenge fantasy that I have been harboring. Have you noticed how when people hurt us in deeply enduring and life-altering ways, we sometimes feel like the only way out of our pain and suffering is to hand it back to them in the […]
Feeling Criticized? Try This.
When I used to hear things like: “Don’t take this personally, but …” or “I am not trying to criticize you, but …” my hackles would rise in preparation. My loyal defenses would kick in (we all know whatever follows that “but” is not going to be good) and I would brace myself for whatever […]
5 Steps for Working with Anger Nonviolently
Are you struggling with managing your anger? Read this article to learn how to work with anger nonviolently and transform it into clarity and energy. Discover the principles and practices for self-awareness and healing shared by the author, who got expelled from a boarding school in South Africa at 13 for defiant noncompliance with “hazing” rituals. Explore the five steps for working with anger and uncover your deeply held unmet needs to move from rage to tenderness. Learn from Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication and neutral observation to embrace your judgmental thinking and integrate them with awareness.