What’s the Point of All This Personal Growth and Healing?
As someone who is deeply invested in healing, self-development and human transformation,, I can sometimes approach my own healing and personal growth with a very goal-oriented, linear lens towards some kind of “progress.” In these moments, it helps me to remember that it doesn’t matter how much work I’ve done on myself, that it will […]
What is Healthy Self-Esteem?
I often talk about “loving ourselves up” through life. We know we have healthy self-esteem when we’re able to love ourselves up every time we make mistakes, aren’t good at something or do things that we regret. We don’t turn on ourselves. We don’t collapse into shame. Nor do we defend ourselves against vulnerability by […]
What Anger Tells Us
I’ve been reflecting on the pain of separation from people we love, on loneliness and on how much it hurts when we feel alienated from others in social gatherings. I’ve been remembering moments from my childhood when I felt existentially lonely, and how much of my life I’ve searched for the sense of belonging and […]
All About Anger
Even though anger is not the same thing as aggression, I often find myself tensing up around anger as if it is synonymous with aggression. I still consciously remind myself that it, in fact, is not. Anger, is the 30 second to 2 minute “whoooooosh” of activation that arises in our emotional bodies when we […]
Submission vs. Surrender
When we surrender to something, we let go of trying to control the uncontrollable. We stop trying to force and coerce other people, ourselves or life itself to show up according to our preferences and projections. We make an inward turn, towards “working-with,” instead of “working-against.” Surrender is active wisdom. A conscious choice, born out […]
How to Stand Up for Yourself with Love
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”4.16″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”]Healthy relationships are all about finding ways to be both empathic and boundaried, connected to ourselves and connected to others. It’s a fine balance. I don’t abandon myself by putting others on pedestals, nor do […]
The Predictable Backslide
Our personal growth doesn’t progress in a linear, predictable upwards fashion. It ebbs and flows. It meanders around corners and down alleyways. Some days it’s supercharged and we feel like we are on top of the world. Other days, we can’t seem to find the motivation just to get up to make a cup of […]
Field Any Response with Ease and Graciousness
Have you ever held yourself back from asking for what you actually want and long for? I notice this in myself sometimes, a reluctance to ask for something – especially if I really want it. Sometimes it’s because I am afraid of how I will feel if someone says no – almost as if disappointment […]
How To Stop Taking Things So Personally
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ admin_label=”section” _builder_version=”4.16″ global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_row admin_label=”row” _builder_version=”4.16″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”4.16″ custom_padding=”|||” global_colors_info=”{}” custom_padding__hover=”|||”][et_pb_text ul_item_indent=”10px” admin_label=”Text” _builder_version=”4.19.1″ background_size=”initial” background_position=”top_left” background_repeat=”repeat” global_colors_info=”{}”] It can be difficult not to take things personally sometimes. Someone doesn’t return your phone call. Another person is “busy” every time you invite them to do something. Yet another person asks […]
What is Alive in You?
[et_pb_section admin_label=”section”] [et_pb_row admin_label=”row”] [et_pb_column type=”4_4″][et_pb_text admin_label=”Text”] Does your nervous-system sometimes get so flooded that it’s hard to stay present to yourself and others? Do you notice yourself habitually converting your feelings into thoughts, trying to classify and analyze them instead of just feeling them? Would you like to widen your window of tolerance for […]