On-Demand Course: How to have hard Conversations
Calm. Clear. Confident.
In any conversation.
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Want to stay grounded under pressure?
Don’t you wish you could navigate conversations with confidence, clarity, and ease – even when there’s intense disagreement and charged emotions?
Though we live in polarized, divisive times, we have the power to offer a relational, curious, engaged spirit in our conversations with others.
I’ve designed this course to help you have those tough conversations with compassion, clarity, confidence, and choicefulness.
With this course, you can …
- Develop your emotional intelligence and interpersonal capacity.
- Learn how to avoid kicking up familiar patterns of blame, shame, and defensiveness.
- Discover how you can create powerful empathetic human connections.
Harnessing this power, all of us can reach our highest potential. Instead of being stuck in exhausting power struggles, we can finally move forward together as one healthy, sustainable, peaceful, and compassionate global community.
How did we get here?
Most of us have been taught to compete, judge, demand, and diagnose – to both think and communicate in terms of what is “right” and “wrong.”
Though well-intended, these habits are corrosive to our personal and professional relationships.
Add to that the deep polarization that’s happening in our world today, and we’ve got a recipe for painful conflict.
Bridging these differences is hard work, but I’ve got a roadmap for you.
In this course, you’ll get concrete skills and step-by-step strategies for effective listening, managing emotions, understanding someone else’s perspective, finding common ground, avoiding self-righteousness, and telling your own story.
You’ll also get conversation prompts, practical exercises, case examples, and self-reflections to help you to visualize and practice starting, sustaining, and ending challenging conversations.
You can apply these strategies to all kinds of hot-button issues both at work and at home: vaccines, raising a teenager, politics, finances, and more.
Some Reviews from real people
Incredible teaching and content.
Great examples – including scripts and conversation starters. Dr. Erasmus is engaging, dynamic, and skilled. I came away with fresh concepts and how-to’s that helped me increase my self-empathy, empathy for others, and strategies for defusing conflicts.
– Paige Hector, LMSW National Speaker and Clinical Educator
The foundational content was so supportive.
It helped me realize that difficult conversations, such as whether or not someone chooses to get the vaccine, isn’t actually about the vaccine. It’s about people wanting their perspective to be heard and respected. I was able to get in touch with my need for safety and bodily autonomy, while also respecting the needs of others that go against my values.
– Workshop participant
All the Ways You’ll Grow
→Learn to de-escalate conflicts and bridge connections
→Effectively engage in critically important conversations
→Maintain healthy boundaries in work systems with never-ending demands
→Reduce your experience of compassion fatigue
→Handle emotionally-charged situations with more ease, clarity, and confidence
→Enjoy respectful, hopeful, and empowering connections with others
→Get specific things to say (and not say) when people are upset
Get new moves, new skills, and new scripts for having conversations that bridge the divide.
What We’ll Cover
The primary paradigm shift to transform all your interactions
Preparing for a successful conversation
Emotional readiness and self-trust
The 5 barriers to “getting through” to each other
Locating the conversation – what we’re “really” talking about
The magic question that redirects every disagreement
Practical and compassionate communication tools
In case we’ve never met…
I’m a psychologist, teacher, and consultant who specializes in transformative education for human healing and growth, helping people embrace differences while staying grounded in their fundamental unity.
My approach synthesizes mind-body medicine, somatic experiencing, diversity and inclusiveness, nonviolent communication, and integral-relational-cultural psychology, bringing what has been divided and fragmented into wholeness and harmony.
Learn more about me here.
If you are experiencing financial hardship, a scholarship or sliding scale fee may be available. Please email us, and we will do our best to make this course as accessible for you as possible.
If you are experiencing financial abundance and want to sponsor someone who might not otherwise be able to register for this course, please let us know, and we will gladly pass on your additional contribution to someone who needs it.