How to Inspire Care from Others
When working on inspiring care in others, we may be tempted to try and explain ourselves or our position. However, that often isn’t the most efficient place to begin. The secret to inspiring care in others is actually helping the other person become more closely self-connected. We’re playing the long game when we prioritize the other person to get in touch with their own experiences, feelings, and needs, but the long game is also the game that encompasses everyone’s feelings and needs.
How to Build Authentic Connections with Difficult Family Members
So often, past hurts make it really difficult to connect with family in authentic ways. It’s a recipe for hurt if we want to show up in ways that are true to who we are, and our own family has a difficult time seeing us that way. We had a great conversation on the podcast this week about how to get more of what we want from difficult family members.
Stay Engaged for Longer: Scripts and Strategies
When things don’t feel comfortable, it’s a common strategy to run. But if you’re looking for ways to stay engageded instead of escaping, the first step is to acknowledge when a familiar behavior is no longer working.
How to Cultivate a Sense of Belonging
Fitting in is one thing, but belonging is something else altogether. And authentic belonging relies on our own self-connection and acceptance, first.
The Power of Self-Connection: Transforming Relationships from the Inside Out
Healthy relationships with ourselves and with others are dependent upon self-connection.
Self-connection is the key to understanding. With it, we can understand our thoughts and feelings, motivations and desires. Deep self-connection also leads to a greater understanding of others.
Self-Regulation When Others are Triggered: 4 Beneficial Practices
Staying regulated when others are not can be a huge challenge. Navigating someone else’s triggered nervous system in ways that are kind and loving is easier said than done.
How to Listen Without Getting Defensive
It’s rarely our first instinct to listen without getting defensive. Defensiveness is a natural response designed to protect us in situations where we may be concerned for our safety. However, when we become defensive, we close ourselves off to our hearts. We become unable to access the vulnerable part of us that can actually shift and de-escalate conflict. Additionally, we become cut off from valuable insights and perspectives from others, ultimately sabotaging effective communication and connection. The key to stepping out of our heavily reinforced habit of defending ourselves in conflict lies in focusing on two internal resources: our intention and our attention.
How To Increase Your Self-Love: 7 Ways to Get Grounded in Your Goodness
Self-love is such a fundamental aspect of our well-being, but what does it actually entail? If you’re anything like me, you might find yourself prioritizing others’ needs, juggling multiple responsibilities, and tuning into everyone else’s feelings and preferences. It can be easily to fall into old patterns and inadvertently neglect the most important relationship of all – the one we have with ourselves.
How Can I Get My Partner Into Therapy?
In this week’s podcast, a spouse is wondering how to recruit her partner into therapy. It’s a common question. In couples therapy, I’ve often been met by one spouse who is eager to do the hard work of healing and expanding the relationship, and another who is only there to make their spouse happy.
How to Dissolve Self-Judgment
Turning self-judgment into self-compassion offers a transformative pathway towards greater self-acceptance, resilience, and overall well-being.