What (Not) to Do When Triggered
As I was helping two people work through a conflict a few weeks ago, one of them turned to me and snapped,
“So basically you’re accusing me of being abusive?”
I took a deep breath.
“OK. Let’s slow down … first, am I understanding what you are telling me accurately: You said you called your partner a liar, swore at them multiple times, raised your voice, followed them from room to room after they asked for a time out and then shattered a glass on the floor between the two of you – is that right?”