Dr. Yvette's Blog
Stories and learnings from my own personal journey into deeper compassion, healthier relationships and nonviolent living. Please feel free to leave comments and questions on any posts; I love being in conversation with you.
Category: Boundaries & Power
How to Embody Nonviolent Power
Who Will You Be in Divisive Times?
The psychological and physical violence that wants to erupt is calling for an equal and opposite healing presence from those of us who feel ...
Loving Boundaries, Deeper Connections
I used to think that having a boundary meant proclaiming ultimatums, drawing lines in the stand and then defending them resolutely. I used to ...
Bowing Out Gracefully: When “No” Is a Gift
Here I share some general principles and some useful word-for-word scripts that you can use the next time you’d like to nonviolently disengage from ...
Power-Over vs. Power-With
Here I’m outlining key differences between power-over versus power-with consciousness, and we’re exploring the nonviolent, compassionate use of personal power and the impact that ...
How to Shift from Reactive to Responsive: Freedom to Choose
I’ve been finding it easy to slide into unconscious, mindless, and reactive response patterns lately. Whenever I find myself in places like this, I ...
What Gets in the Way of Setting a Boundary? (Part 2)
It’s far more loving to respect people enough to know that they can manage their own feelings than to harm someone by avoiding a ...
What Gets in the Way of Setting a Boundary? (Part One)
How many times have you been willing to sit with increasing internal conflicts, resentments and distress, rather than risk losing a relationship that you ...
Why Is Setting Boundaries So Difficult?
What would it look like to be authentically yourself, express your limits and boundaries clearly, and still be in meaningful relationships with others?
How to Set a Protective Boundary
The difference between the punitive and protective use of force.
How to Embody Nonviolent Power
Who Will You Be in Divisive Times?
The psychological and physical violence that wants to erupt is calling for an equal and opposite healing presence from those of us who feel ...
Loving Boundaries, Deeper Connections
I used to think that having a boundary meant proclaiming ultimatums, drawing lines in the stand and then defending them resolutely. I used to ...
Bowing Out Gracefully: When “No” Is a Gift
Here I share some general principles and some useful word-for-word scripts that you can use the next time you’d like to nonviolently disengage from ...
Power-Over vs. Power-With
Here I’m outlining key differences between power-over versus power-with consciousness, and we’re exploring the nonviolent, compassionate use of personal power and the impact that ...
How to Shift from Reactive to Responsive: Freedom to Choose
I’ve been finding it easy to slide into unconscious, mindless, and reactive response patterns lately. Whenever I find myself in places like this, I ...
What Gets in the Way of Setting a Boundary? (Part 2)
It’s far more loving to respect people enough to know that they can manage their own feelings than to harm someone by avoiding a ...
What Gets in the Way of Setting a Boundary? (Part One)
How many times have you been willing to sit with increasing internal conflicts, resentments and distress, rather than risk losing a relationship that you ...
Why Is Setting Boundaries So Difficult?
What would it look like to be authentically yourself, express your limits and boundaries clearly, and still be in meaningful relationships with others?
How to Set a Protective Boundary
The difference between the punitive and protective use of force.








