FALL 2022 COURSE: THE BOUNDARIES MASTERCLASS
Set strong boundaries with confidence, clarity and kindness
Healthy boundaries create connection, safety, and closeness. By providing protection, they allow us to soften into trustworthy, secure relationships – at home and work.
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Reclaim your “no” – Stay true to your values – Speak your truth with love
Would you like to …
→Say “No” easily and confidently without worrying about who might get hurt or angry.
→ Stop feeling responsible for others’ feelings and reactions.
→Communicate your limits and boundaries in a clear, confident, unfaltering way that actually enhances and strengthens your relationships.
→Let go of the guilt you feel when you stay true to yourself and someone else is upset about it.
→Stand up for and defend yourself and your decisions using collaborative, clear language.
→Get practical scripts and a step-by-step process to navigate boundaries with more ease and connection.
A Note from Yvette …
As a clinical psychologist, teacher, writer, and consultant, I’ve been involved in human development work with people like you for over 25 years.
A universal struggle is our inner conflict between being true to our authentic selves and keeping the peace with those around us. It can be almost paralyzing.
Generous, open-hearted, and wanting to make the world a better place, we sometimes struggle to look after ourselves or to set the boundaries that we need.
We over-work, over-give, extend ourselves endlessly, and burn out. 😬
Years ago, when I immersed myself in deepening my compassion and empathy skills, my single-minded focus on connecting and empathizing with others (before anything else) unfortunately left me vulnerable and undefended in situations where I actually needed more self-advocacy and self-protection.
Let me help you avoid the same mistake.
Connection is wonderful, but we also need to be skilled at self-protection.
We need to include ourselves in our circle of care and protection, but for codependent people-pleasers this can be especially difficult.
However, when we’re unable to connect to our own needs, ask for what we want, and honor our intrinsic limits and preferences without making others “wrong,” we resort to setting forceful and self-sabotaging boundaries out of desperation.
Good boundaries deepen trust and a sense of connection in our relationships.
I’ll help you identify your internal boundaries, your “deal-breakers,” and show you how to talk about your internal boundaries long before they become painful issues in your relationships.
Self-protection, self-respect, and self-care are not selfish.
They are essential for trust and connection.
You will learn …
01How to respond positively, even when you’re angry
02How to respect your own needs
03How to neutralize your default impulse to say yes to others
04How to stop being controlled by others’ feelings and thoughts
05How to set boundaries while maintaining connection with others
06How to say no – and what to say no to!
07How to ask for what you want
08How to recognize when there is a boundary issue and make a proactive plan
On Demand + Live Sessions
THE BEST OF BOTH WORLDS
You get instant access to the course modules as soon as you sign up! Dive in immediately and get the clarity you need to begin setting calm, confident boundaries right away.
As you start applying these concepts, questions will come up! Old patterns will bump up against new intentions and you’ll want to check something out with me, so …
Then you’ll join me for two live sessions to dive into both Q&A and applications of the material you’re learning. Save these dates now!
Wednesday, October 26
Focus on Modules 1 and 2
Wednesday, November 9
Focus on Modules 3 and 4
Bring your questions about the different modules and your personal situations to unpack and explore, and we’ll dive into the applications of the concepts and material.
Maybe you …
01Tend to put others first?
02Struggle to express your needs? (Or struggle to even know what you need?)
03Worry that setting a boundary will jeopardize your relationship?
04End up taking on more than you want and then feeling resentful?
05Stop yourself from saying something because you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings?
06Worry that people won’t like you if you say no?
07Wish you could set and enforce your boundaries without so much force or resentment?
08Tend to be wishy-washy about what you really want and need?
You’ll get everything you need to understand about what a boundary is (and isn’t) in the first place.
You’ll figure out your personal “property lines” and get tools to calibrate your “yes/no” inner compass.
We’ll also spend time getting crystal clear about what you are and are not responsible for.
To set proactive and preventative boundaries, you need to know what your needs and values are and where your limits lie.
During this session, you’ll get clear about what you stand for, what you do and don’t welcome into your life.
You’ll leave this session with a clearly defined personal self-care landscape that will set you up for clear, courageous, and conscious limit-setting in your relationships.
Setting Boundaries is about speaking truth with love.
In this session you’ll get step-by-step formulas for what to include and exclude and what to say and not say when you’re setting a boundary or expressing a limit with someone.
You’ll leave with new scripts for some old, stuck situations.
Enforcing our boundaries once we’ve set them can be derailed by two things: guilt and boundary pushers.
We will workshop what to do when someone insists on pushing your boundary or trespasses into your space again and again.
You’ll also leave with helpful ways of working with guilt or self-doubt that might arise along the way.
Frequently Asked Questions
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What's the format of the workshop?
You get the best of both worlds in our hybrid model: Instant access to on-demand content combined with live sessions with Yvette.
You get 4 video modules, each ranging from about 60 to 85 minutes. Watch them at your own pace, and pause them whenever you like for time to journal and reflect.
Then bring your questions and situations to our two live Q&A discussions:
Wednesday, October 26, 7:00pm-8:30pm CT
Focus on Modules 1 and 2
Wednesday, November 9, 7:00pm-8:30pm CT
Focus on Modules 3 and 4
You’ll also receive a variety of handouts and a workbook to support your learning, and get lifetime access to the course and future updates.
What materials are included?
In addition to the four video modules, you’ll also get a workbook and a variety of handouts to support your learning. In addition, for each module, you can download the slides and audio files download.
And bonus material! You get a variety of fun supplemental videos to help illustrate the priniciples we’re explore. Also, you’ll get a overview on trauma and boundaries.
The worksheets offer exercises for determining your self-care landscape, identifying your own boundaries, scripting an “Empowered No,” and strategizing what to do when you get difficult responses from others.
You’ll also have checklists for healthy boundaries and unhealthy boundaries and scripts for what boundaries might sound like in various areas of life.
How long will I have access to the workshop?
You’ll have lifetime access to the course pages as long as we continue offering the course. (And you’ll benefit from being able to revisit the course when we make updates to it!) We do recommend that you make a plan to move through the course in one month, allowing yourself one week per module.
What people are saying …
The way in which Yvette can help you keenly understand what is at stake and at play and then help each person communicate their needs in a way that the other person can hear is remarkable and life-changing.
– JL Lyons, workshop participant
My biggest struggle was communicating honestly in ways that wouldn’t trigger defensiveness in others, especially when addressing tough issues, like race or power dynamics, where shame can often play out. I wanted to be able to express myself in ways that lead to connection. Working with Yvette has been transformational. Even the relationships in my life that were working well have grown more satisfying and joyful.
– W. Morris, workshop participant
Start the course now.
If you are experiencing financial hardship, a scholarship or sliding scale fee may be available. Please email us, and we will do our best to make this course as accessible for you as possible.
If you are experiencing financial abundance and want to sponsor someone who might not otherwise be able to register for this course, please let us know, and we will gladly pass on your additional contribution to someone who needs it.