#127 What to Say When Fear Is Running Your Relationships
What to say when fear is running your relationships. Learn how to check assumptions, ask for clarity, and choose courage over anxious stories.
#126 Struggling to Connect with an Emotionally Unavailable Person? Practical Moves That Actually Help
When someone is emotionally unavailable, it’s usually not a lack of care or effort, it’s a nervous-system capacity limit, and no amount of better communication can turn overwhelm into presence.
#87 Feeling Undermined? How to Reclaim Your Power
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling undermined, small, dismissed, or questioning yourself? Maybe you shared something personal, only to have the other person immediately take the other side or explain away your experience? It can leave you feeling undermined, like your voice doesn’t matter.
But here’s something important to understand—feeling undermined isn’t actually a feeling at all. It’s an interpretation of what we think someone is doing to us. It’s a way of describing an experience that doesn’t feel good, but it doesn’t name the emotion itself.
And this distinction matters. Because when we can get clearer on what’s actually happening inside of us—when we can name the real emotions and needs at play—we stop giving our power away and start reclaiming it. Here’s a practical roadmap to help make this shift towards reclaiming our power.
#86 Have Unmet Needs in a Relationship? How to Tell and What to Do
Have you ever felt frustrated, disconnected, or emotionally drained in a relationship, but couldn’t quite put your finger on why? Maybe you’ve found yourself thinking:
Why do I always feel like I’m giving more than I get?
Why does this relationship leave me feeling so exhausted?
Am I expecting too much—or is something really missing?
These feelings aren’t random. They’re signals—your mind and body’s way of alerting you to unmet needs in a relationship. Instead of ignoring them or blaming yourself (or the other person), learning to recognize and respond to them can lead to healthier, more fulfilling connections.
#85 Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD): How to Self-Soothe and Break Free from Emotional Distress
Have you ever felt completely crushed by even the smallest hint of rejection? Maybe a friend doesn’t text back, a coworker gives neutral feedback, or you sense a subtle shift in someone’s tone—and suddenly, your brain spirals.
Did I do something wrong?
Do they not like me anymore?
Am I unlovable?
Before you know it, your heart is pounding, emotions are flooding in, and you’re either fighting back tears, lashing out, or shutting down completely.
If this resonates, you’re not alone. What you’re experiencing is called Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD): an extreme emotional reaction to real or perceived rejection, often associated with ADHD, neurodivergence, and trauma histories. And while it can feel unbearable in the moment, you are not powerless: There are ways to self-soothe, regain control, and free yourself from the emotional rollercoaster.
#84 Responding with Love When Kids Act Up
Responding with Love When Kids Act Up means no fixing, rescuing, or minimizing their feelings. Discover practical strategies to help kids process frustration, sadness, and anger while building their resilience and emotional intelligence. Read more for compassionate, actionable parenting insights.
#82 What to Do When Relationships Disappoint You
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, our relationships with other people fall short of what we long for. When this happens, it’s natural to feel sadness, anger, or even a sense of betrayal. But beneath these feelings lies an important question: How do we navigate the pain of unmet expectations without closing ourselves off from connection? What meaning do we make of these moments, that can serve to fortify our strength and protect us as we move forward?
#81 Unlearning What No Longer Serves Us: Reclaiming a Healthier Way of Being
This week on Episode 81 of the podcast, I had deeply meaningful conversations with Carol and Jen that reminded me how powerful and necessary it is to unlearn the beliefs and habits that no longer serve us. For me, their stories highlighted how many of our daily struggles, from setting boundaries to overcoming self-doubt, have been shaped by the systems we’ve internalized. Together, we explored how noticing our moments of unlearning work not only transforms our own lives but also ripples outward, creating a more compassionate and just world. Here, I’ll share a few additional reflections on “unlearning,” but for an even richer understanding, listen to the podcast to hear how these principles play out in the micro-moments of our daily lives.
#80 Reclaiming Your Voice: Navigating One-Sided Conversations
If you’ve ever been in a conversation where you shared something meaningful, only for the other person to quickly turn the focus back to themselves, you know what I am talking about. Maybe you started telling a story or expressing a thought, and before you could finish, they interrupted with their own experiences or opinions. This common dynamic many of us know all too well, and it can leave us feeling resentful, disheartened and confused. Although it’s easy to withdraw, get defensive, or let frustration take over, today we’re going to explore how to navigate these moments by reclaiming your voice, honoring your needs, and even inviting deeper connections. Here are some practical strategies to help you handle these one-sided conversations with skill and grace.
#78 Boundaries vs. Abandonment: How to Prioritize Yourself Without Guilt
If you ever feel guilty for saying “no” or setting boundaries with others, then let’s get clear on the difference between boundaries vs. abandonment.