#94 How to Love Someone Without Letting Them Off the Hook
On the podcast recently, caller Cathy grappled with the question of how to stay in connection with her brother, after he had done so much harm in her family.
This wasn’t a simple disagreement. This was a relationship thick with complexity – love, grief, betrayal, outrage. Her brother had caused real damage, some of it permanent. And now, as he reaches out in his final years, she finds herself stuck between two truths:
I love him. And I don’t condone what he’s done.
How do we love someone without letting them off the hook?