Power-Over vs. Power-With
How would you describe your relationship with power? Do you embrace it? Shy away from it? Trust it? Feel suspicious toward it? I used to carry enemy images of power. Experiences I’d had with people using external and institutional power over others in self-serving,...Protecting vs. Punishing: Some Essential Differences
People sometimes tell me that they worry that setting a boundary with someone is a “violent” thing to do. “Isn’t it a form of exerting power-over someone?” they ask. Yes, it is. At times, exerting power over others or a situation may be...Want To Step Out Of A Power Struggle?
While teaching in Bali, I got into a massive power struggle with a 12th grade student (let’s call him James).He went surfing before school and a sense of entitlement learned – in part – from his well-known and powerful father. At a school serving students...
Do You Have Authority Issues?
Do you have authority issues? I know that I do. I have a rebellious spirit, but I’m also a habitual people-pleaser. I find myself swinging between not wanting to participate in systems as they exist and trying earnestly to fit in and find a place of belonging and...
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