How to Stop Recreating the Past

One of the biggest obstacles to our own growth and development is our attachment to our interpretations. It works like this. Imagine you start seeing someone and 24 hours after texting them, they haven’t yet texted you back or called. You might start thinking … They...

What to do When You’re Feeling Used

“OMG, I hate all my friends,” a young woman said to me recently, “they only ever call when they need something. I feel so used.” While “feeling used” is actually an interpretation of an external event rather than a real feeling, it’s an...

All About Needs

Last week, I received this lovely question:”I love how much more literate in feelings I am now, however honestly, I just don’t really get the universal human needs. Like how to actually connect to them and communicate about them in real life in real...