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It’s relatively easy to have conversations that go badly. Make a snarky comment. Say something insensitive. Lead with judgment. Follow up with criticism. Interrupt. Defend. Argue. Descend into shame. Isolate with self-righteousness. We all know the drill. High-quality...
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