by Yvette Erasmus | Sep 19, 2022 | Boundaries
Life is a constant dance of give and take – of offering and receiving. It feels wonderful when we are giving to our loved ones from a place of wholehearted generosity. Those easy, openhearted yesses are so satisfying and mutually beneficial. But, when we’re...
by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 26, 2022 | Healthy Relationships
You know two main things get in the way of setting healthy boundaries? Our fear of how other people might react. Self-doubt and insecurity about our ability to respond to those reactions in effective ways. This challenge is made even more difficult when we’ve been...
by Yvette Erasmus | May 16, 2022 | Healthy Relationships
In my free video training, Should I Stay or Should I Go, I give you a checklist of red and green flags to help you self-assess your relationships. It includes a list of behaviors that threaten the safety and health of your relationships, as well as a list of behaviors...
by Yvette Erasmus | Sep 27, 2021 | Healthy Relationships
I used to think that having a boundary meant proclaiming ultimatums, drawing lines in the sand and then defending them resolutely. I used to associate having good boundaries with being disconnected and cut off from others. Because of my deeply ingrained fear of not...
by Yvette Erasmus | Aug 10, 2021 | Healing Trauma
Growing up isn’t always easy. Some days, I find myself wishing that the world would rearrange itself to nurture me. To embrace me. To care for me. Those days, when I’m feeling “little,” I also tend to be more fearful. More fragile. More...