Characteristics of the
Martyr Listening Archetype
When you listen through the Martyr Archetype, you tend to assume that you are the one who needs to change.
When you field others’ judgment, criticism and blame, you tend to respond with self-judgment, shame or guilt, and then use it to motivate you to change and improve in some way.
While your commitment to self-improvement and self-responsbility is admirable and has probably brought you far in life, you may suffer from an undue amount of anxiety, perfectionism, self-doubt or depression. When your self-judgment get activated, you start looking for what is wrong with you or what you need to change. You may have a habit of “throwing yourself under the bus” by taking more responsibility than is actually yours in relationship issues and glitches.
Assuming that you are the problem or the one to blame may be exhausting and can set you up for carring more than the lion’s share of the emotional and mental load in your relationships.
Changing yourself in order to make things better shows great self-responsbility, but you might be taking more responsibility than is actually yours for the quality of your relationships – and may want to learn how to give some responsibilty back to those around you.