While it can be easy to get stuck in self-talk, like “I’ll never be the person I want to be” or it’s opposite, “They should change, not me,” wisdom lies in the field between self-acceptance and self-improvement.
This was a theme on the podcast last week, Emotional Resilience: Fear, Self-blame, Self-acceptance and Self-improvement.
[1:01] How to regulate your nervous system to find safety when triggered
[7:02] What is nervous system re-regulation?
[9:32] Why should you not empathize with fear states?
[13:01] How to reframe fault and blame in a divorce situation?
[16:49] Role-playing to learn how to explore conflicting feelings about the divorce
[25:32] How to handle self-blame in the divorce situation
[28:44] What is radical acceptance and self-improvement, and what does it mean to keep them in balance?
[30:13] What resources discuss blame and judgment being developmentally appropriate for children?
[37:25] How do you break the unhealthy attachment to comfort in chaos?
[43:28] How do you receive nurturing support from your community?
[46:30] Finding solace in shared experiences and empathic connection
[50:39] How do you teach someone how to be with you?
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I also talk about these concepts and skills in a variety of blog posts, including: