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People Are Not the Problem

People Are Not the Problem

When something goes wrong, most of us respond by looking for something or someone to blame. We default into asking, “What’s wrong?” and commonly answer that question with either “You!” or “Me!” Judgments, criticisms, analyses, diagnoses, and power struggles usually follow, and we all know how those conversations go. It’s not really our fault, though. Let me explain.

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Lead with “Yes, And…”

Lead with “Yes, And…”

“And” helps us bridge differences, make connections, and see our shared humanity and shared needs. Once we decide to let go of our defensiveness, our fears, our resistance, and instead start working with life on its terms, we free ourselves up for more play and creativity in all aspects of our lives.

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The 4 Stages of a Good Conversation

The 4 Stages of a Good Conversation

I often think of conversations as the life-force that enlivens – or throttles – relationships. Conversations are never really complete. They are ongoing. Winding. Emergent. Unpredictable. And, when they are life-affirming and generative, conversations tend to go through some very predictable stages.

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