Last week, I described how I’ve come to describe the process of change and growth that we humans go through as the Change Spiral underlying much of my work. The quality of spiraling can feel like a revisiting of themes and patterns in our lives as we move through the...
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How to Start Setting Boundaries – When You Haven’t Been
You know two main things get in the way of setting healthy boundaries? Our fear of how other people might react. Self-doubt and insecurity about our ability to respond to those reactions in effective ways. This challenge is made even more difficult when we’ve been...
2 Questions for Assessing Your Relationships
In my free video training, Should I Stay or Should I Go, I give you a checklist of red and green flags to help you self-assess your relationships. It includes a list of behaviors that threaten the safety and health of your relationships, as well as a list of behaviors...
Do These 2 Things to Build Trust
Trust is absolutely foundational to safety and love. However, when our relationships are characterized by sharing our judgments in an attempt to change and mold other people into who we need them to be, we erode safety and trust. So what makes us feel safe in our relationships?
Why We’re Here on the Planet
I truly believe that we’re here on the planet to learn how to love ourselves and one another. And, simple as that sounds, I’ve also discovered that this is much more challenging than it sounds.