Last week, I described how I’ve come to describe the process of change and growth that we humans go through as the Change Spiral underlying much of my work. The quality of spiraling can feel like a revisiting of themes and patterns in our lives as we move through the...
You know two main things get in the way of setting healthy boundaries? Our fear of how other people might react. Self-doubt and insecurity about our ability to respond to those reactions in effective ways. This challenge is made even more difficult when we’ve been...
In my free video training, Should I Stay or Should I Go, I give you a checklist of red and green flags to help you self-assess your relationships. It includes a list of behaviors that threaten the safety and health of your relationships, as well as a list of behaviors...
Trust is absolutely foundational to safety and love. However, when our relationships are characterized by sharing our judgments in an attempt to change and mold other people into who we need them to be, we erode safety and trust. So what makes us feel safe in our relationships?
I truly believe that we’re here on the planet to learn how to love ourselves and one another. And, simple as that sounds, I’ve also discovered that this is much more challenging than it sounds.