It can be difficult not to take things personally sometimes. Someone doesn’t return your phone call. Another person is “busy” every time you invite them to do something. Yet another person asks you why you’re always “so emotional.” When we interpret other people’s...
If you were to ask me if I would rather experience a high level of discomfort for a minute, or deal with a lower level of discomfort for days and weeks on end, I’d tell you that I’d rather have high anxiety for 30 seconds, than low-grade dis-ease for longer periods of...
What if, the next time you’re suffering in some way, you decide to relax into that suffering? Counterintuitive? I know. When I’m in some kind of pain or distress, every part of my body tends to tense up around it, brace against it, resist it. However, what if our...
Last week, I described how I’ve come to describe the process of change and growth that we humans go through as the Change Spiral underlying much of my work. The quality of spiraling can feel like a revisiting of themes and patterns in our lives as we move through the...
You know two main things get in the way of setting healthy boundaries? Our fear of how other people might react. Self-doubt and insecurity about our ability to respond to those reactions in effective ways. This challenge is made even more difficult when we’ve been...