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The 2 Main Differences Between Boundaries and Requests

The 2 Main Differences Between Boundaries and Requests

There are two main misconceptions about boundaries. The first is that a boundary is a punishment.  Now that you’ve gone and done this terrible, awful thing to me, my only option is to punish you for your actions by enforcing a boundary. The second is that a boundary is something I force you to do.  “You will not speak to me in that tone of voice”, or “You will not continue to disrespect the family in this way.”

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Where Did My No Go? A Codependency Question

Where Did My No Go? A Codependency Question

As children, we adapt strategies that allow us to survive the environments we live in. Often, these strategies are life-serving and we carry them into adulthood where they help us create the lives we long for. Other times, they are detrimental to ourselves and our relationships. On the podcast this week we talk about one such adaptive strategy:  co-dependency, especially as it related to parenting. 

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