True self-care is not about “fixing” ourselves to meet culturally defined standards of normalcy and productivity. Nor is it about numbing ourselves out with Netflix and Negronis, so that we can reluctantly pull ourselves begrudgingly through another week of work.
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Many of you have been telling me lately that you’re feeling exhausted by the pandemic and volatile global events. In times like these, I often find myself drawing on these five key practices that help me find my way through what sometimes feels like a dense darkness.
I often ask people to assess how resourced they believe they are to have a particular conversation, and this often leads to a tilted head and raised eyebrows. Here I cover what it means to be “resourced” and offer 4 questions you can ask yourself when you’re trying to figure out how resourced you are.
When we get triggered and reactive, let’s practice loving up our inner child. Let’s see our reactivity as a childhood fear of punishment and then work compassionately with that. In loving ourselves up, we help ourselves mature into more empowered ways of being, and we finally help those little selves grow up just a little bit more.
I am all about the self-healing and self-loving journey… What I didn’t know when I began this journey, however, was how messy it really is. I heard someone recently say, “When it comes to healing, we glorify the glow-up.” I can relate.