, Psy.D., LP

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What to do when triggered

What (Not) To Do When Triggered

As I was helping two people work through a conflict a few weeks ago, one of them turned to me and snapped, “So basically you’re accusing me of being abusive?” I took a deep breath. “OK. Let’s slow down … first, am I understanding what you are telling me accurately: You said you called your partner a liar, […]

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Being Brave Personal Journey

Being Brave on Our Personal Journeys

When I get triggered by something, I often find myself reacting defensively by blaming, judging and avoiding the person or conversation. I get all reactive and evasive. When my instincts are to fight, or flee or freeze up, it can be hard to stay relational, relaxed and engaged. But, it’s not impossible. Working courageously with my fears […]

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