Share the Emotional Load

When you were younger, were you ever sent to your rooms with instructions to “pull yourself together” and to come back out “when you’re in a better mood” – or some version of that event? I was. Did you somehow pick up the message...

How to Rest, Rejuvenate and Reconnect

When life gets particularly overwhelming, and I feel like I have bitten off more than I can chew, it helps me to remember all the ways that I can resource myself … Here’s my life of reminders – May they inspire you too! Time away – even just going for a...

Who Do You Think You Are?

When I “misbehaved” as a child, I’d be met with a wagging finger and a harsh tone: “Who do you think you are?” – sometimes followed by the rhetorical question, “The Queen of Sheba?” This usually meant I was being too...

The Beauty of Nonconformity

One of my favorite trees at the Minnesota Landscape Arboretum has branches that rest on the ground all around its base.These branches resting on the ground are very beautiful to me – as if it’s propping itself up to stay upright. The novelty of it delights...

When People Are Indirect, Try This

Communication is tricky. People often speak indirectly, in code.You know what I mean. Like, when they say …“UGH, I hate always being the one to take out the garbage in the cold… why do I always have to do it?”Now, we all know that they aren’t really asking why…If you...