You Have No Choice About What You Want

You have no choice about what you want.When someone first suggested this to me, I balked and scrunched up my face in disapproval and disgust, with my knee-jerk response: Of course I have a choice in what I want. What a ridiculous idea. Then I sat with it. And...

The Real Work is About Love

I love what Pema Chodron says about compassion being grounded in mutuality, self-knowledge and self-acceptance: “Only when we know our own darkness well, can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared...

How to Process Your Emotions

Processing emotions means literally allowing the feelings to move through your body, swelling up to a crescendo and moving the energy out of your system. As I was talking about the importance of processing emotions as opposed to stuffing them, repressing them, coping...