One-Up, One-Down? Try One-With

When someone challenges, disagrees with or contradicts you, how do you respond?  Does your body tighten-up or gear-up? Do you withdraw, feel shame, get resentful, self-silence? Do you get more activated and engaged and begin to prove your point, bring in...

Recovering from Reactivity

As I was walking across a parking lot, carrying a package to a UPS store, a man passed me walking towards his car. Moments later, he yelled back at me, with some hostility, “Hey lady, do you think you could park any closer to my car?” I...