, Psy.D., LP

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Too Emotional

Too Emotional? Are You Sure?

Working with some educational leaders recently on improving schools, someone remarked,“The problem is simply that many of our teachers are just too emotional.”  Years of experience hearing comments like this in schools and companies has taught me to slow down and ask more questions. “What do you mean by “too emotional”?  What are they saying […]

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Universal Human Needs

This Daily Practice Works Wonders

I recently asked a team of leaders what I could work on to become even more effective in my work with them. You know what they told me? They wanted to be held more accountable to the insights they were developing. One person elaborated, saying she loved the insights she was getting during our coaching time, but […]

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Rock that Boat (with Empathy).

This week I rocked the boat by setting some new boundaries with people I love. I asked for what I wanted, knowing it would be counter-cultural. It wasn’t easy.  I was scared. Normally, I’d just manage the conflict internally, and not “get real” with myself or others about what I actually wanted.  I’d tell myself […]

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Relationship Repair Work

That Moment (3 Steps for Repair Work)

When I am tired or low on interpersonal resources, I find it difficult to show up with compassion and grace. I sink back into judgmental, controlling and reactive habits even though I know they are self-sabotaging and unlikely to result in what I actually want. One thing I have recently noticed though when things go […]

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