Goldilocks Discomfort

Communication practice is a lot like going to the gym and lifting weights.   I can see the skills I want to learn, to internalize, to strengthen, but I seriously don’t always enjoy exerting the effort. I want more Ease. Simplicity. Competence.  Sometimes,...

Undivided: Healing Splits

Over the last week, my sense of living in a nation deeply divided intensified.I’m reminded of the ever-present, low-grade fear and anxiety I felt as a young teenager living under a State of Emergency in South Africa under the rule of Apartheid.Caught between the...

Learning to Hiss: The Cats & Dog Story

When we adopted Mr. Whiskerson from the humane society, he was already an old cat with a life-time trauma history. He’d been found neglected and hiding out in a log pile, and although he’d been adopted twice before, his previous owners had returned him to the shelter....

Learning to Hiss: The Cobra Story

In a village, there once lived a cobra whose bite had taken the lives of many of the people. The leader of the community went to a wise man and said, “We can’t go on like this. The snake is killing off all the villagers. Won’t you please do something about it?” The...