Butterfly Pacing

My mother once told me a story from her childhood about a time she came upon a butterfly emerging from its chrysalis. She stopped and marveled at the wet butterfly slowly breaking out of the hardened pupa. Its progress was painstakingly slow and my mother felt...

When You Get Emotional In Public

Last week, I was casually telling some people about a time when a perspective shifted in my life and suddenly found myself choked up with tears and pain. My first thoughts: Damn. Not here. Not now.I was with a group of relative strangers, doing task-related,...

What Makes Life Worth Living?

As I write this, I am sitting in at a resort in Nova Scotia listening to the ocean waves gently lapping at the rocks outside. The first day of intensive training in Integral Facilitation has been unexpectedly powerful for me: you know it’s a good training when you are...

Not This

You know those times you are grappling with a problem, looking for a solution to it, and think of an idea, but then say something like: “Yes, but I don’t want people to think I am … [selfish, lazy, unkind, mean, controlling etc.]” You know that moment?Notice it.Then,...